What’s more powerful than calibrating other people’s states? Calibrating your own!
I’m sure you’ve made some good decisions in the past. I’m also sure you’ve made some not-so-good decisions. The second best thing about those not-so-good decisions is that they are in the past. The best thing is that you can learn from all of your decisions — good, bad, or ugly.
Here is a 2 minute technique that lets you leverage all that hard earned learning in order to make better decisions in the future.
Step 1. Pick a not-so-good decision you made. Either the most recent or a bigger decision that didn’t turn out so well.
Step 2. Calibrate against the not-so-good decision. Replay the situation when you were making that decision. You can watch it like a movie and fast forward or rewind to get to that spot in time when you were making the decision. Once you’ve got that spot ready, you’re going to step back into the situation and calibrate against how you feel, physically and emotionally, just before you make that not-so-good decision.
Step 3. Shake it off. Come back to the room and literally shake it off.
Step 4. Pick a good decision you made. Again, either a recent or bigger decision you made, but this time it is going to be a decision you made that turned out well, maybe even super awesome.
Step 5. Calibrate against the good decision. Replay the situation when you were making that decision. Once you find the spot where you were actually making the decision, step into the situation and calibrate against how you feel physically and emotionally just before you make that good decision.
Step 6. (Optional and recommended) Anchor that state. If you know enough NLP, you’ll want to make this state easily accessible by anchoring it to a touch, an image, a word, a sound, etc. Then you can bring that state up, make a decision, and know that it will be a good one — no matter which way you were leaning before you fired that anchor!
Step 7. Check your calibration. Go back to a random decision, check out how you feel in that situation, identify which of the states you calibrated against is being played out. Fast forward and confirm your calibration. If you’re not sure or if you’re getting them wrong more than once in four or five, then you need to start back at step 1 and recalibrate.
At this point, you’ve got a nice little “black box” that can tell you when you’re about to make a good decision or not. I’ll bet that could come in handy, don’t you. In fact, I trust this little technique enough that I recommend you read more about NLP Monthly, decide to give it a chance to build more great skills like this, and then double check that your “black box” is telling you that you’re making a good decision. Go test it now!